Archive for November, 2009
Why Men Cheat During the Holidays
With the holidays upon us, has your To Do list become a mile long? From buying and wrapping presents to scheduling family festivities and travel to finishing up those year-end projects at the office, it’s no wonder that romance falls off the radar! It’s also no surprise when you hear of a man cheating during the holiday season. What causes this rise in infidelity? Is it libido, ego, or, gulp, is it us?
The following are some of the most common reasons men cheat during the holidays…
He doesn’t like the way he’s being treated
Oftentimes, a man cheats because he doesn’t like the dynamic in his current relationship. If he feels like his partner nags him, belittles him, disrespects him, and/or treats him like a child, meeting someone new who treats him with respect, admiration, and with desire will feel incredibly appealing. So what does that have to do with the holidays? With the added stress of that long To Do list, some women may be unconsciously treating their man like he’s yet another thing they have to cross off their list, but they just don’t have time for. And honestly, who wants to be treated that way?
No one! To avoid driving your partner away, spend time every day nurturing your relationship. And not just during the holiday season. All year long, let your partner know how much you love and appreciate him. Ask for the same in return. By being treated the way you want to be treated and ultimately treating your partner with love and respect, you take an important step in affair-proofing your relationship.
Top 5 Hot Singles Winter Getaways
‘Tis the season to celebrate being single! While your married with children friends are stuck at home trying to figure out how to assemble their kids’ Christmas presents, you are footloose and fancy free to get away from it all. Whether warmer climates beckon, an adventure on the high seas sparks your interest, or you simply want to slip away for a few days, there's definitely a destination for you. In case you're overwhelmed by all your winter getaway choices, I did a little homework and found the top five hot singles getaways this season. And now, for your reading pleasure...
Getaway #1: Set Sail on a Singles Cruise
Once upon a time, cruises catered to couples and families. The romantic dinners, family oriented activities, endless buffets, etc. Those days are over, my friends. All you have to do is Google “singles cruises” to see just how many cruises there are celebrating the single life. Love the idea of snorkeling, scuba diving, and/or hiking in the rain forest alongside your fellow single adventurers? Looking to relax poolside with other single sun worshipers? And what about the never-ending nightlife on board a singles cruise -- the dining, dancing, live music, etc.? If the idea of setting sail in the company of like-minded singles appeals to you, then climb aboard this winter for destinations both known (sunnier climates) and unknown (a possible romantic rendezvous?).
Getaway #2: Hit the Slopes, Singles-style
The Savvy Single’s Must-Have Holiday Wish List
Calling all savvy single ladies! Have you made your list and checked it twice? There's no doubt you've been both naughty and nice this year, so to help round out your holiday wish list the following are five must-have items for the coming year…
For your naughty side...
Whether you're flying solo these days and need a toy of your very own, or are looking to spice up your sex life with the man in your boudoir, you'll definitely find what you're looking for at http://www.blissconnection.com/. And if you've got a group of girlfriends looking to spice things up this holiday season, why not have your very own Bliss Pleasure Party during the holidays?
For your celebratory side...
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For your dating side...
Holiday 101: The Joys of Being Single
As the saying goes, ‘tis the season to be jolly. But for some, being single during the holidays can be a real drag. Whether it's the idea of spending yet another Christmas without a significant other, being the only single person at all those family gatherings, or just feeling like another year has flown by without meeting that special someone, being single during the holidays can be overwhelming. But before you cry into your eggnog latte and curl up in the Christmas lights, stop. Take a breath. And get some much-needed perspective.
The key to having a fun and festive holiday season actually has nothing to do with having a significant other or not. In fact, the secret to the celebratory season lies in giving thanks for exactly where you are in life. And for the savvy single, that means celebrating the many joys of being single, especially during the holidays.
Joy #1: No In-Laws
How to Beat The Holiday Blues BEFORE Thanksgiving
Last week, I gave a FREE call where I shared 5 secrets for beating the holiday blues when you’re single. The great news is, you can implement these tips immediately and rock your holiday season BEFORE Thanksgiving...
Single Strategy #1: Focus on friends and family
Instead of obsessing about what went wrong with your ex or why you didn’t meet the love of your life this year, focus your energy and attention this holiday season on your friends and family. You are loved by many people! You may just need to tweak your perspective. Take some time to reconnect with old friends, tell a family member how much you love them, and in turn heal your broken heart.
Single Strategy #2: Pamper yourself
Think of all the money you’re saving by being single this holiday season! No ungrateful ex to shop for, no annoying in-laws to visit, no ridiculous lovers’ spats after one too many cups of eggnog. This holiday season, celebrate your single status by pampering yourself. Spend a day at the spa. Splurge a little on gifts for yourself. Decorate your home to your heart’s content. Whatever floats your boat, you’re footloose and fancy free to do it!
Single Strategy #3: Reserve the right to say “None of your bees-wax”
Single during the holidays? Celebrate the joys of mistletoe!
Want to celebrate your single status this holiday season?
Embrace the mystery of mistletoe!
Every party should have mistletoe (and every party should have a cutie or two!).
Next time you walk into a holiday soiree, at atake a look around, see where the mistletoe is.
Also take a mental note of the cuties in the room. You want to smile, make eye contact, and flirt a little.
(Go ahead -- give yourself permission to start feeling fabulous again!)
If you happen to end up under the mistletoe with a certain cutie, give yourself permission to have a little smooch. If not, no worries. You're still celebrating your single self!
This holiday season, remember to just have fun! You're not on breakup lock down. You are single, you are fabulous, and it’s time to celebrate that this holiday season.
Report your successes and setbacks to me on my Facebook Fan Page.
Single during the holidays? Celebrate the joys of mistletoe!
Want to celebrate your single status this holiday season?
Embrace the mystery of mistletoe!
Every party should have mistletoe (and every party should have a cutie or two!).
Next time you walk into a holiday soiree, at atake a look around, see where the mistletoe is.
Also take a mental note of the cuties in the room. You want to smile, make eye contact, and flirt a little.
(Go ahead -- give yourself permission to start feeling fabulous again!)
If you happen to end up under the mistletoe with a certain cutie, give yourself permission to have a little smooch. If not, no worries. You're still celebrating your single self!
This holiday season, remember to just have fun! You're not on breakup lock down. You are single, you are fabulous, and it’s time to celebrate that this holiday season.
Report your successes and setbacks to me on my Facebook Fan Page.
Ready to Rejoice, Renew, Reflect?
As the holidays approach, are you approaching with sadness, despair, and disappointment over your last relationship?
If so, that's okay. But it's time for a reality check.
Instead of feeling sorry for yourself this holiday season, take the time to rejoice, renew, and reflect.
Ask yourself these questions:
- How did this year go?
- Where do I want to go next year?
- What do I want to celebrate that I learned this year, even if it was painful to learn it?
- What do I want to let go of that no longer serves me?
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- What do I want to accomplish in the new year that I need to change my behavior to do?
Spend some time this holiday season rejoicing, renewing and reflecting. As you do, you will see that you are not behind schedule with your life, you are actually right on time.
For hands on help, sign up for private coaching me.
Got questions? Email ask@lisasteadman.com.
How to be a Holiday Flirt!
I’ve got another great tip to celebrate your single self this holiday season...
I want you to become a flirting master!
Now, you don’t have to lose 20 pounds to rock your inner flirt.
You don’t have to get plastic surgery or get a new wardrobe either.
Flirting can happen anytime, anywhere, with anyone.
When you're at the grocery store and looking for produce, keep a look out for the cuties in your vicinity. Smile, make eye contact, and give him permission to approach.
By giving yourself permission to be open and to see who's in your environment, you can start flirting and having fun today. This is your chance to reclaim your fabulousness, and what better time then the holiday season!
To celebrate your sassy self, report your progress to me @ ask@lisasteadman.com.
How to Survive Holiday Parties Solo
With the holidays upon us, healing and moving on from a broken heart can be especially challenging.
You worry about being the only one minus a plus one at parties.
And sometimes you're freaked out because you don’t want to answer all of those mind numbing and selfish questions:
Where’s whats his name?
What happened?
What went wrong THIS time?
Sound familiar? I get it. I've been there myself.
Healing your heart during the holidays can feel painful, hurtful, and like there's something wrong with you.
Before you hide under the covers until New Year's, give yourself permission to pick and choose the parties you go to.
Now, don't become hermit -- choose the parties where there will be people who love you, support you, and nurture you. Gravitate towards situations where your friends and loved ones can help you celebrate your single status.
