10 SIGNS YOU’RE NOT OVER YOUR EX

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The Breakup Chronicles: When Love Gone Wrong Leads to Lessons Learned

Here’s another story I pulled out of The Breakup Chronicles archives. In 2004, I launched The Breakup Chronicles because I’d just had my heart smashed to smithereens for the umpteenth time and needed to figure out why I was getting love so wrong, so consistently. The common denominator was most definitely me. In writing about some of my key relationships, I needed to figure out what I did wrong, how I contributed to the demise of each one, and what I could give thanks for as a result of having loved someone, even if it wasn’t forever. Since then, I’ve met and married the Love of My Life, written 5 books about breakups, dating, and relationships, and love helping women discover their unique Love Brand. Enjoy this oldie but goodie from The Breakup Chronicles…   I take the cake. I went from one heart break into another! When I met the first Mr. Ex, I was in a relationship but fell so deeply in love that I had to break it off. As is usual, everything was wonderful. And then he started to stray. For five years I stayed with him, through affairs, disrespect,t baby mama drama. Finally, it was the day that I saw him kissing another woman who was dropping him off to work. Yes, we worked together, that I finally realized that I had to get...

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Happily Ever After…an archive favorite

Here’s another story I pulled out of The Breakup Chronicles archives. In 2004, I launched The Breakup Chronicles because I’d just had my heart smashed to smithereens for the umpteenth time and needed to figure out why I was getting love so wrong, so consistently. The common denominator was most definitely me. In writing about some of my key relationships, I needed to figure out what I did wrong, how I contributed to the demise of each one, and what I could give thanks for as a result of having loved someone, even if it wasn’t forever. Since then, I’ve met and married the Love of My Life, written 5 books about breakups, dating, and relationships, and love helping women discover their unique Love Brand. Enjoy this oldie but goodie from The Breakup Chronicles…   By Lani Voivod I would start with the image of a semi-crushed can of Keystone Light flying across a seedy motel parking lot in Cody, Wyoming at four in the morning, followed by an impassioned SLAP in the face, but it all sounds like one big freakin’ cliche. So I’ll pick some arbitrary spot on the timeline, label it “The Beginning,” and start there instead. Mr. Ex arrived at the resort toting nothing but a duffle bag and a crooked smile. I had been working on the outskirts of Nowhere for about two months...

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The Force Wasn’t With Us

Here’s another story I pulled out of The Breakup Chronicles archives.   In 2004, I launched The Breakup Chronicles because I’d just had my heart smashed to smithereens for the umpteenth time and needed to figure out why I was getting love so wrong, so consistently. The common denominator was most definitely me. In writing about some of my key relationships, I needed to figure out what I did wrong, how I contributed to the demise of each one, and what I could give thanks for as a result of having loved someone, even if it wasn’t forever. Since then, I’ve met and married the Love of My Life, written 5 books about breakups, dating, and relationships, and love helping women discover their unique Love Brand.  Enjoy this oldie but goodie from The Breakup Chronicles… I knew early into the relationship that he was an addict. Although in his circle, they called themselves collectors. Addict, collector, fanatic. Call it what you will. But in my book, anyone who camps outside overnight to see a movie needs help. We met at a party. One of my first since returning to Los Angeles after the breakup in Arizona. I was not looking for love. I didn’t even want to be at the party. But friends had dragged me, so there I was. Through the course of the night, I met his roommates, his friends,...

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Bouncing Back from a Breakup

Here’s another story I pulled out of The Breakup Chronicles archives. In 2004, I launched The Breakup Chronicles because I’d just had my heart smashed to smithereens for the umpteenth time and needed to figure out why I was getting love so wrong, so consistently. The common denominator was most definitely me. In writing about some of my key relationships, I needed to figure out what I did wrong, how I contributed to the demise of each one, and what I could give thanks for as a result of having loved someone, even if it wasn’t forever. Since then, I’ve met and married the Love of My Life, written 5 books about breakups, dating, and relationships, and love helping women discover their unique Love Brand. Enjoy this oldie but goodie from The Breakup Chronicles…. You want to know what I do to get over a nasty breakup? I take a trip. Travel abroad. I’ve racked up so many frequent flyer miles at this point, I could go to the moon and back. And that’s okay. Because I haven’t met The One yet. And rather than settle, I go for the breakup. And then I go far, far away. I cry, I sightsee, I fall in love. With myself, that is. Breakups take their toll on our self esteem. But the truth is, I’m all I’ve got. And rather than...

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The “It” Factor

Here’s another story I pulled out of The Breakup Chronicles archives. In 2004, I launched The Breakup Chronicles because I’d just had my heart smashed to smithereens for the umpteenth time and needed to figure out why I was getting love so wrong, so consistently. The common denominator was most definitely me. In writing about some of my key relationships, I needed to figure out what I did wrong, how I contributed to the demise of each one, and what I could give thanks for as a result of having loved someone, even if it wasn’t forever. Since then, I’ve met and married the Love of My Life, written 5 books about breakups, dating, and relationships, and love helping women discover their unique Love Brand. Enjoy this oldie but goodie from The Breakup Chronicles… He said he didn’t want to end up a breakup story. That he didn’t want to become yet another Mr Ex. I told him there were no guarantees. After all, when you date a writer – or an artist of any kind – that’s the gamble you take. That your life story will somehow end up in print, on screen, aka public domain. I’m sure he’ll understand. Mr. Ex and I met the way many 21st century couples meet – online. We liked what each other had to say about life, love, art. Several emails...

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Like A Prayer

  Here’s another story I pulled out of The Breakup Chronicles archives. In 2004, I launched The Breakup Chronicles because I’d just had my heart smashed to smithereens for the umpteenth time and needed to figure out why I was getting love so wrong, so consistently. The common denominator was most definitely me. In writing about some of my key relationships, I needed to figure out what I did wrong, how I contributed to the demise of each one, and what I could give thanks for as a result of having loved someone, even if it wasn’t forever. Since then, I’ve met and married the Love of My Life, written 5 books about breakups, dating, and relationships, and love helping women discover their unique Love Brand. Enjoy this oldie but goodie from The Breakup Chronicles… “I’m getting married next month.” Even through the crackle of the long distance telephone and the drunkenness of my brain, the words were unmistakable. “Who is she?” I slurred, no longer caring if he knew I was drunk or not. “No one you know. I’m so sorry. I feel terrible. Now you’ve been hurt twice…” Before I could give him the satisfaction of finishing his sentence and ripping my heart wide open, I hung up the phone. And then sat there, listening to the crazy party going on in the next room. My 22nd...

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