My 24 hour If He’s Not The One, Who Is? campaign launches Thursday, January 14
Woohoo! My new book If He's Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong - and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right launches on Thursday, January 14.
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My book If He's Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong - and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right is chock full of valuable information that will help you:
1. Identify the differences between Mr. Wrong, Mr. Next, and Mr. Right
2. Let go of past dating drama and disappointment and welcome a healthier love future
30 Day Woohoo Challenge: Day #6 — Create Your Relationship Requirements, Wants, and Needs
Now's the time to get specific. You can't call in love until you know what you want, need, and REQUIRE from a partner.
Today, start making your list of relationship qualities and traits your perfect partner possesses. Then divide the list into requirements, wants, and needs. Share your results here or on my Facebook Fan Page.
30 Day Woohoo Challenge: Day #2 – Who are you still holding onto?
Today, I want you to start identifying who/what is holding you back on your journey to find love.
First, ask yourself this:
Are you still hung up on your ex?
Whether he's still in your life or not, your ex may be sabotaging your chances of finding love if:
- you compare every man you meet to your ex and they never measure up
- your ex’s criticical messages are in your head constantly, i.e. "You’re too fat", "You're too screwed up", "You’ll come back – watch!"
- you’re so afraid of getting hurt again that you’re completely shut down when it comes to love
OR, do you live with the story that tells you you're unworthy of love?
Have you spent a lifetime in silent agreement about what's possible for you in life and love?
Maybe you cosmically agreed you’d be healthy and successful but alone and lonely, or that you can have love but be poor.
Or who are you afraid of punishing if you're happy?
"I won’t be more successful or happy than my parents,” is a common silent agreement. So are:
- "My mom told me I didn’t deserve love, so it must be true."
30 Day Woohoo Challenge: Day #2 – Who are you still holding onto?
Today, I want you to start identifying who/what is holding you back on your journey to find love.
First, ask yourself this:
Are you still hung up on your ex?
Whether he's still in your life or not, your ex may be sabotaging your chances of finding love if:
- you compare every man you meet to your ex and they never measure up
- your ex’s criticical messages are in your head constantly, i.e. "You’re too fat", "You're too screwed up", "You’ll come back – watch!"
- you’re so afraid of getting hurt again that you’re completely shut down when it comes to love
OR, do you live with the story that tells you you're unworthy of love?
Have you spent a lifetime in silent agreement about what's possible for you in life and love?
Maybe you cosmically agreed you’d be healthy and successful but alone and lonely, or that you can have love but be poor.
Or who are you afraid of punishing if you're happy?
"I won’t be more successful or happy than my parents,” is a common silent agreement. So are:
- "My mom told me I didn’t deserve love, so it must be true."
Have you been “Turkey Dropped”?
I just read this on npr.org. Click here to listen to the audio story on All Things Considered. And yes, I subscribe to kcrw, so I'm sure they don't mind me re-purposing their material...
It's not just turkeys that get nervous this time of year. Chances are high that a failing relationship will also meet its end during the holidays. That's because it's not just turkey season — it's turkey drop season.
"The turkey drop is that holiday breakup season where all the college students return home for their first major vacation, and everyone breaks up," Washington University junior Carly MacLeod tells guest host Robert Smith. She writes the romance column for the student newspaper.
It's often freshmen who do the majority of the turkey dropping, MacLeod says. After three months living apart and making new friends, high school sweethearts reunite to find their long-distance relationship is more burden than they want. Upcoming finals add to the emotional stress. "Go home, hook up and break up is pretty much the pattern," MacLeod says.
You're not safe from the turkey drop if you're out of college, either, according to relationship and sex advice guru Dan Savage. "For grown-ups," he says, "it's the anticipation of being stuck for three or four more months.
Why Men Cheat During the Holidays
With the holidays upon us, has your To Do list become a mile long? From buying and wrapping presents to scheduling family festivities and travel to finishing up those year-end projects at the office, it’s no wonder that romance falls off the radar! It’s also no surprise when you hear of a man cheating during the holiday season. What causes this rise in infidelity? Is it libido, ego, or, gulp, is it us?
The following are some of the most common reasons men cheat during the holidays…
He doesn’t like the way he’s being treated
Oftentimes, a man cheats because he doesn’t like the dynamic in his current relationship. If he feels like his partner nags him, belittles him, disrespects him, and/or treats him like a child, meeting someone new who treats him with respect, admiration, and with desire will feel incredibly appealing. So what does that have to do with the holidays? With the added stress of that long To Do list, some women may be unconsciously treating their man like he’s yet another thing they have to cross off their list, but they just don’t have time for. And honestly, who wants to be treated that way?
No one! To avoid driving your partner away, spend time every day nurturing your relationship. And not just during the holiday season. All year long, let your partner know how much you love and appreciate him. Ask for the same in return. By being treated the way you want to be treated and ultimately treating your partner with love and respect, you take an important step in affair-proofing your relationship.
Top 5 Hot Singles Winter Getaways
‘Tis the season to celebrate being single! While your married with children friends are stuck at home trying to figure out how to assemble their kids’ Christmas presents, you are footloose and fancy free to get away from it all. Whether warmer climates beckon, an adventure on the high seas sparks your interest, or you simply want to slip away for a few days, there's definitely a destination for you. In case you're overwhelmed by all your winter getaway choices, I did a little homework and found the top five hot singles getaways this season. And now, for your reading pleasure...
Getaway #1: Set Sail on a Singles Cruise
Once upon a time, cruises catered to couples and families. The romantic dinners, family oriented activities, endless buffets, etc. Those days are over, my friends. All you have to do is Google “singles cruises” to see just how many cruises there are celebrating the single life. Love the idea of snorkeling, scuba diving, and/or hiking in the rain forest alongside your fellow single adventurers? Looking to relax poolside with other single sun worshipers? And what about the never-ending nightlife on board a singles cruise -- the dining, dancing, live music, etc.? If the idea of setting sail in the company of like-minded singles appeals to you, then climb aboard this winter for destinations both known (sunnier climates) and unknown (a possible romantic rendezvous?).
Getaway #2: Hit the Slopes, Singles-style
The Savvy Single’s Must-Have Holiday Wish List
Calling all savvy single ladies! Have you made your list and checked it twice? There's no doubt you've been both naughty and nice this year, so to help round out your holiday wish list the following are five must-have items for the coming year…
For your naughty side...
Whether you're flying solo these days and need a toy of your very own, or are looking to spice up your sex life with the man in your boudoir, you'll definitely find what you're looking for at http://www.blissconnection.com/. And if you've got a group of girlfriends looking to spice things up this holiday season, why not have your very own Bliss Pleasure Party during the holidays?
For your celebratory side...
Suddenly single? Recently recycled? Or just looking to show your single gal spirit? Pick up a flirty tee for you or your dog @ singletease.com. From single gal tees with sayings like just ask me (out), support your local library (check me out), and looking for good pick-up lines to adorable tees for your pup with sayings like say hello (we don't bite), paws-tively single, don't make me beg (for your #), and pet me (if you're single), you’ll be flirting and meeting men in no time!
For your dating side...
Holiday 101: The Joys of Being Single
As the saying goes, ‘tis the season to be jolly. But for some, being single during the holidays can be a real drag. Whether it's the idea of spending yet another Christmas without a significant other, being the only single person at all those family gatherings, or just feeling like another year has flown by without meeting that special someone, being single during the holidays can be overwhelming. But before you cry into your eggnog latte and curl up in the Christmas lights, stop. Take a breath. And get some much-needed perspective.
The key to having a fun and festive holiday season actually has nothing to do with having a significant other or not. In fact, the secret to the celebratory season lies in giving thanks for exactly where you are in life. And for the savvy single, that means celebrating the many joys of being single, especially during the holidays.
Joy #1: No In-Laws
How to Beat The Holiday Blues BEFORE Thanksgiving
Last week, I gave a FREE call where I shared 5 secrets for beating the holiday blues when you’re single. The great news is, you can implement these tips immediately and rock your holiday season BEFORE Thanksgiving...
Single Strategy #1: Focus on friends and family
Instead of obsessing about what went wrong with your ex or why you didn’t meet the love of your life this year, focus your energy and attention this holiday season on your friends and family. You are loved by many people! You may just need to tweak your perspective. Take some time to reconnect with old friends, tell a family member how much you love them, and in turn heal your broken heart.
Single Strategy #2: Pamper yourself
Think of all the money you’re saving by being single this holiday season! No ungrateful ex to shop for, no annoying in-laws to visit, no ridiculous lovers’ spats after one too many cups of eggnog. This holiday season, celebrate your single status by pampering yourself. Spend a day at the spa. Splurge a little on gifts for yourself. Decorate your home to your heart’s content. Whatever floats your boat, you’re footloose and fancy free to do it!
Single Strategy #3: Reserve the right to say “None of your bees-wax”